Seeking Support and Counselling for Late Diagnosed Neurodiversity

In my practice I see many clients who receive a late diagnosis of ADHD, autism, or dyslexia.

Some may not have a formal diagnosis but have come to recognize they are neurodivergent. This recognition later in life can come with mixed feelings. A person may feel shocked and overwhelmed due to struggling with symptoms for years without understanding the root cause. Many adults may have gone undiagnosed during childhood, only to discover their neurodiversity later in life. This can be a confusing and emotional experience, as the person processes what may have happened if they did receive suppo

rt earlier. Understanding the difference between their neurodivergent traits and personality traits can also be confusing.

Seeking support and counselling can make a significant difference in coping. This process can bring up a myriad of emotions, including relief, frustration, and confusion. Many adults may feel relieved to finally have answers to why they have struggled with certain aspects of their lives, such as navigating social situations, disorganization, forgetfulness, sensory issues, or reading/writing difficulty. On the other hand, they may feel frustrated that they have gone so long without proper diagnosis and support.

One of the best ways to navigate a late diagnosis or self-diagnosis is by seeking support from professionals who specialize in neurodiversity. A therapists can provide linkage to other specialists especially if the client is seeking a formal assessment and help navigate the healthcare system. Therapist working from a neurodiversity-affirming lens can can offer guidance, understanding, coping strategies, self-acceptance, self-compassion, and understanding neurodiversity in a non-pathologizing way. Seeking therapy can provide individuals with a safe space to process their emotions. The therapist can validate their identity, identify their unique capacities, and develop effective coping mechanisms. Therapy can also help individuals address any negative self-perceptions or beliefs that may have developed as a result of their late diagnosis. Many neurodivergent adults may have internalized feelings of inadequacy, shame, or self-doubt due to their struggles. Working with a therapist can help individuals reframe these beliefs and develop a more positive self-image.

In addition to therapy, neurodivergent adults may benefit from support groups or peer networks. Connecting with others who share similar experiences can provide validation, understanding, and camaraderie. Support groups can offer a sense of community and belonging, as well as practical tips and resources.

It's important for neurodivergent individuals with late diagnosis to prioritize self-care and self-compassion as they navigate these new times. This can include engaging in activities that promote mental and emotional well-being, such as exercise, mindfulness, and creative pursuits. Developing a routine that supports mental health, such as proper sleep, nutrition, and exercise, can also be beneficial.

Receiving a late diagnosis can be an overwhelming experience for some people. By seeking support from professionals/peers, prioritizing self-care, and learning about their neurodiversity, individuals can lead fulfilling lives.